It is true you will find what you are looking for. If you are looking for a fight you will find one. If you are looking for love you must be Johnny Lee (rim shot, thank you try the fried clams). Seriously we tend to find exactly what we have on our mind, if you look at life with compassion instead of aggression it is amazing the differences you can see in people.

The Dalai Lama explained that when people are upset, their distress interferes with them being able to think clearly. He highlighted how people tend to see those they hate or are angry with as 100% negative. Not only is this perspective inaccurate, but it also pits people against each other. And they often act in ways they later regret.

Maybe it's the walk a mile in my shoes mentality that I was raised in or maybe I just don't like to fight, but I think we probably stand on more common ground that we are willing to admit, even with those that we feel with have the biggest issues with in our world.

(via Find Happiness Through Compassion « The Art of Relationships.)