Are You in the Wrong Relationship? Let’s Find Out
We all know that relationships aren't all sunshine and rainbows that the fairy tales make them out to be. They take work and know just how to test your love for someone. But is there such a thing as putting in too much work?
I would say that the answer depends on what the relationship consists of. If you are trying way too hard, you might just be in the wrong relationship.
First things first, never ever tell yourself that you have to change to be with someone.
If you cannot be yourself with someone, then they probably aren't the right person for you. You should never have to change for anyone.
Second, you shouldn't have to settle.
Don't ever feel like you are not good enough for someone. If they do not see how great you are, then it may be time for you to walk away.
A lack of compatibility in your senses of humor can cause issues.
I am a big goofball. However, I know when I need to take things seriously. If you are like me and you are seeing someone that is the complete opposite, you may run into a few hurdles. That doesn't necessarily mean they are wrong for you, but it doesn't mean they are the right one either.
Life goals are a big factors.
There is a difference between and relationship in high school and a relationship during and after college. By that point you probably have a good idea as to wear you want to be at least 5 years down the road. You have plans and goals. If the both of your goals aren't compatible or they just don't have any, it's probably time to rethink things...separately.
The biggest factor (in my opinion) is just this: Being in love with the idea of someone.
This one is a little tough. But the bottom line is, if you are in love with the idea of someone and who they could possibly for you, instead of who they truly are, you are in the wrong relationship.
I know I know, you are saying, 'Oh boy, Terryn is giving relationship advice.' I totally understand. However, I have been through a few rough relationships in the past and dealt with a few of these issues. And I am sure you could come up with a few more.
If you are in college and all you want out of life right now is to enjoy the college life and just have fun, I will never stand in your way. If you are at the point in your life when you are ready to try and settle down, then things can seem to be a little more serious.
I think that the most important things to remember are: Fights happen. They are what make a relationship solid. But you want someone to have fun with and someone who can make you laugh. We all want someone who makes us look at life in a better way than we had before and someone we want to walk through life with.
Now if you are in a happy relationship, I salute you. You haven'